A Word about Blogging and Good Manners…
February 15, 2008
Do you also find it most frustrating if you try to get in contact with other people, you enter some nice comments for a couple of times and the addressee does not even care about responding even once? Well – I do.
Of course you cannot force people to read what you write but wouldn’t it be so much nicer if you would receive an answer also or at least a confirmation that your comment has been read in one way or another?
I have learned in early days that communication is working much easier and better if you respect what your “talking” partner has to say. I don’t think that this rule has been abandoned really but my impression lately is that people get very sloppy about these rules and the most basic requirements for politeness which is essential for a human cooperation in the deepest sense of the word.
I mean – this has nothing to do with grovelling – which is a completely different issue – and equally annoying – but for heaven’s sake what is wrong with saying “thank you”?
How do you feel when you try to get in contact with someone, you write a couple of nice comments on someone’s blog and you are not getting any response at all? Not even a little “thanks” that your “effort” has been noticed at all. What a jerk – you probably think…
What is blogging all about? Connecting with like minded or even controversial people in a network! An exchange of opinions and emotions. But real communication only works in both directions – otherwise it is only a kind of virtual exhibitionist self-portrayal on the Internet!
Are we that much degenerated and dis-illusioned that we assume that our communicative partner does not need a simple “thank you” any more, neither on a business letter nor on a personal email, where we might have received an answer or advice to a question? Are you also getting frustrated about this, when you have spent some time on helping a person and not getting the tiniest “thanks” in return? I find this behaviour not only quite miserable but it leads to more ego driven behaviour simply because you – as a person – don’t feel appreciated any more. So why doing anything for anyone at all if it is not even noticed?
It is a bit different in real life. In real life you might see a smile on someone’s face or another physical reaction but in the virtual world where you cannot hear voices or see a life face it is even more important to express what you feel. The word stands for a gesture. So why not use it – it does not cost a dime!
Rude manners never feed a good communication. Even in the most banal interactions such as a chit chat about house and garden, a minimum amount of friendliness helps the cause and does not hurt anyone’s feelings. On the contrary – it leaves a good feeling in anyone as a person and human being.
I find it is time to revive these virtues. Wouldn’t it be so much nicer?